Shibari / Kinbaku / Rope Bondage vol.1

I love Shibari, also known as Kinbaku or rope bondage.
Why do I love it? It’s the unspoken yet deeply intense communication with a partner, conveyed solely through ropes. When I experienced it for the first time at 23, I cried — not from pain or fear, but from something I still struggle to fully explain. The best way I can describe it now is as an emotional explosion.

Some may see Shibari as just another form of bondage, like using metal or leather cuffs, but it’s so much more than that. Yes, it restricts your freedom, immobilizes you, and might even terrify you. As a professional mistress, I often incorporate this aspect into my sessions. Tying up my subs and doing unspeakable things to them while they’re completely vulnerable is thrilling. That’s closer to the original essence of rope bondage, which originated in Japan.

That said, I don’t think the modern approach to Shibari is strictly rooted in tradition. It has evolved into something dynamic and multifaceted, and I adore that. I love becoming a rigger’s canvas, surrendering my body to be shaped and transformed as they wish, feeling every touch, breath, and emotion. Similarly, when I’m the one tying, I savor watching my bunny’s facial expressions, emotional shifts, and physical reactions. It’s an intoxicating power to hold someone entirely within the grasp of my ropes.

What makes Shibari truly beautiful isn’t just the visual appeal — it’s the connection it fosters between rigger and bunny. Ropes act as a bridge that engages all the senses, allowing for a dialogue that goes beyond words. The bond it creates is tangible yet indescribable, felt deeply through every twist and knot.

It’s been seven years since I began dedicating so much of my joy and energy to Shibari. Over time, it has brought me countless connections and friendships that continue to enrich my life. Even after moving to Berlin three months ago, Shibari remains a source of inspiration and happiness. Tying others, being tied, and meeting fellow enthusiasts never gets old — it only deepens my passion for the craft.

Since there’s so much to share about my Shibari journey, I’ve decided to break it into smaller stories to avoid turning it into a never-ending narrative. I’m such a right wing for Shibari and firmly believe it’s an extraordinary form to connect us. I hope to write more about it and inspire others to explore this beautiful practice.

To be continued… ❤︎